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Thursday, December 12, 2019

It's Complicated by Michele Paul (online dating for the middle aged)

The subject of online dating is almost unknown to me. I was curious. I wanted to know the system, how it affected both sides and what were the outcomes! I was also curious because in this book we are dealing with much older people so I felt I could empathize as well. (I couldn't!!) but thats another story.

Michele is a single mother of two middle aged, left alone by a cheating partner. Nothing extra ordinary there. Her adventures though in the field of online dating were numerous and hard, just showing human nature at its worst most of the time, how selfish people could be only seeing their own needs, their own worlds and insular and narrow minded to the last. The book did not leave me with a good taste of what online dating could be, because the joys of companionship, partnership, finding a soul mate is offset by the pettymindedness you have to go through to get there.

Most of the time reading this I felt for Michele who was trying to keep an even balance whilst in her search. Why she needed to search so much was also beyond me completely, but then that is a personal whim of mine and does not detract from Michele's story one whit. I found it hard reading about a woman who put so much into her search, was willing to see the good side of everyone she dated, was willing to give a second chance to all - for what??

This was a good book, matter of fact, precise and exposed warts and all of the many facets of humans seeking relationships. The fact that I couldnt understand the whys and wherefores is not the authors problem.

Sent to me by Netgalley for an unbiased review, courtesy of The Book Guild.


  1. I can see this could be an interesting read but I'm not one who would try online dating.

  2. I know a lot of couples who've met via online dating but I don't think it's for me.